Yesterday one of my class members thanked me for the great workout that burned over 400 calories (she wears a heart rate monitor).
“Well, you did all the work, I just told you what to do.”
“But telling us what to do is more than half the battle!”
Yes, I think I’m a good coach, that I plan an excellent workout and, of course, I am very grateful to be thanked for my efforts. That certainly feels good. But their workout is not about me. It’s their time. I think it’s important to be aware that I am a facilitator for my clients.
Because I will not always be there for them. Life situations, jobs, schedules — these things all change.
What doesn’t change is knowing that you are in charge of you, your life, your body. You are in charge of choosing how and if you will exercise.
And if I won’t always have my clients in my stead, I want to give them the tools for keeping up their exercise routine for life. Those tools aren’t simply how to swing a kettlebell, but knowing that they can.
That is all to say — intrinsic motivation is what will serve us in the end. Doing something “for” someone else is a fleeting kind of motivation: getting in shape for events, “looking good naked” so that someone will find us sexy? These things won’t get us unto the gym for years to come — for now, maybe, yes. But not forever.
And the thing about giving someone else credit for your workout? That fuels a pipeline of not giving YOURSELF CREDIT. You need to give yourself credit for what you are doing. You need to acknowledge that you showed up. You hauled your ass up and down the stairs, you picked up the kettlebells and your coach simply told you how to do it and gave you a pat on the back.
You’re doing it. Step up to the plate and own it.